Every marriage will at times have highs and lows, and that must go without saying.  However, there are marriages that are on a steep crash course to destruction.  The couple involved may not actually have any idea that the marriage is troubled.  Many partners will deny they are having marital problems.  Denial will only aid in further deterioration.  We can only modify things that we can actually identify.  

It is definitely essential if you want to restore your troubled marriage, that you understand some of the more common signs of a marriage in trouble.  These are the signs that should make you open your eyes immediately to your marriage problems.

First of all, ask yourself if you both have anything in common anymore.  Any time you do spend together is spent in silence.  There is no longer any meaningful conversation.  You used to always discuss your goals and emotions, but now you don't talk at all.  

You constantly argue and bicker.  When fights take the place of conversation, nothing will be addressed or resolved.  This constant tension that has been introduced due to the constant figting results in a power battle.  This can lead to an outcome of hurtful comments being made, which will cause the issues even more impossible to fix if one or both partners are experiencing or feeling hurt emotionally.

An additional warning sign of a troubled marriage , is constantly feeling that you can do nothing right.  If you feel like everything you do is being evaluated and criticized by your partner, or you feel unsettled or afraid of the ongoing disapproval, then you are certainly in a troubled marriage.

Married couples should share goals and key achievements.  Often when a couple are dealing with marital problems, one partner will share things concerning their work, individual problems or own achievements with other people.  The other partner will learn this information through someone else, when it used to be that they would have told each other initially.

All marriages experience changes and married couples face all sorts of issues.  It is how these changes and issues are dealt with that will decide whether it will make them either become closer or further apart.  Further, it is customary to allow the daily grind of daily life family to take over and you begin to take your marriage for granted.  Couples tend to overlook the pleasant and joyful times and end up focusing on the more current and unconstructive issues in their relationship.  Then, suddenly you realise that something is wrong in your marriage and has been for a while now.

Being too comfortable with your relationship and taking things for granted in a marriage is one of the hugest errors that married couples can make.  That is why it is so imperative to pay attention to your marriage so that you can identify the moment when your marriage is in trouble.  As soon as you realise you are living in a troubled marriage you can take steps to start saving your marriage.