Congratulations.
You are tired of picturing yourself in a lonely, loveless life and have made the conscious decision to save your marriage.
There are a few things to keep in mind on the road of restoration.
The biggest and most important tip that will save your marriage immediately once you have it mastered, is the resolve to not look back, at all.
Do not wonder what might have happened had the argument way back with your husband ended in your favor.
Simply put, you cannot work on the future with one foot in the past.
Look ahead, do not ask and do not tell of what happened before.
You will find that the biggest test of working on your marriage is the feeling of déjà vu.
You feel like you have previously been in a similar situation.
This is actually a prime opportunity for you to take your marriage through a positive turn.
You may feel like you have been in a compromising situation before with your husband, and are battling the feelings of hurt that you previously felt.
In retrospect, you know what you said then, and how it turned out for you.
So you know what does not work.
Use this information to say or do something that might work instead.
For example, walking out of a conversation may not have worked for you in the past, nor did slamming the door, or bursting into tears.
The next time you feel the reflexive urge to do anything that has hurt you in the past, force yourself to do the exact opposite, for a different outcome.
Keep your voice level for the times that you may have raised it, remain calm or have a glass of water for the instance you feel that you might cry.
A major factor that will help you maintain your resolve to work on your marriage is the company that you keep.
If you surround yourself with those who are skeptic of the success of your relationship, then that negativity will slowly and surely seep into your system.
Remain in the company of those who are willing to support you and all that you believe in, and you will find yourself blooming in their positivity.
Once you have decided that you will do all that it takes to recreate the harmony in your marriage that you idealize, it is only in your best interest to focus on your eventual outcome.
Anyone who helps you magnify your destination and not your hurdles is a keeper.
These are tips that primarily focus on your personal attitude that complements your resolve to save your marriage.