The Syndrome Parent Alienation Syndrome, is a new term to me, so I have been doing some research on what exactly this means.
It is a term that I hear thrown around, but don't feel people fully understand it's meaning.
What is Parent Alienation Syndrome? This syndrome is one in which the parents who are going through a separation or divorce alienate the children or child involved.
One parent will continually slander the other, in hopes of turning their child against the other parent.
Well, according to the definition of child abuse - this is clearly child abuse.
Children are innocent beings, and they love both of their parents and they should not be caught in the middle and hear nor see the animosity between their parents.
They should be completely left out of the battle and only feel the love.
To all the parents out there who are going through an unpleasant separation or divorce, please don't involve your child/children.
They are not to be used as pawns against the other parents and should not be involved in any way in your personal battle.
Yes, under these circumstances emotions are flying and there is hurt and pain that you are feeling.
But, sit back and think about your child/children - do you want them to feel that pain as well? If one partner was abusive or has a substance abuse problem and there are safety concerns for the child/children: Speak to your lawyer about your concerns and leave that battle in court.
If you are concerned about the abuse your child was subjected to, then please contact a counselor for abused children.
Leave it up to the counselor to be objective and to discuss the abuse and how this behavior is incorrect with the child.
Having this conversation coming from a counselor will be received better for the child/children and any personal feelings will be kept out of it.
After all, you love your children; you should do what is in their best interest.
Not yours!