It's evident that majority of those who are verbally cruel and abusive are men and some of them are more subtle in their damaging actions.
While it's true that getting abused verbally will not leave any black eyes or apparent bruises, there are going to be more serious and damaging effects on how you view yourself.
Verbal abuse will affect you in a very deep soul level.
Narcissistic abuse is a kind of psychological rape that will leave you feeling violated on many different degrees.
Most of the time, your normal reaction is to get hurt when your partner suddenly throws out some damaging words.
But the good news is that it doesn't have to be that way.
You already know that you cannot control what your partner is going to say but one thing that you're sure is that you have total control of yourself.
And when it comes to verbal abuse, you definitely have a choice.
So, what are your choices? Basically you can take it in or not take it in.
Maybe you're saying that it's easier said than done but if you approach it as a discipline, then you'll have an easier time of applying and developing it.
Make it a discipline to:
- Go for peace instead of being right and feeding your pride.
- Understand that the actions, thoughts and feelings of the narcissistic partner is about them and not about you.
- Realize that you are the master of your own temple and you control what comes in and what doesn't.