Carrie: How did you or do you cope with the rejection and statements that were made by your birth family?
Kara: It is very hard for me because I had my hopes up for so many years, and I really lived a rough childhood being that my adoptive parents were not good people. But I am a strong woman and I have lived a long hard life to only be 23. I just pray and believe that God has brought me this far, He has a purpose for me.

I just keep having faith in Him.
Carrie: Why do you want to tell your story?
Kara: I want to tell my story because it is helping me to heal. I also want other people to be aware of what might happen because as I was growing up everyone would tell me that my mother gave me away because she was too young, or because she couldn't take care of me, or because she loved me. None of that was true. I received my adoption papers and files from the county. She refused to hold me, and she refused to look at me, and she refused to name me when I was born. I know deep down in my heart that there is more to the story, but I will probably never find out.
Carrie: What advice would you pass on to searching adoptees? What do you want adoptees to know?
Kara: My advice for any adoptee searching is that it is really important that you never give up because you have a right to know who you are and where you came from. You have a right to answers. You have a right to be able to tell your kids who their grandparents are.

Just always remember that you have come this far don't give up on anything no matter what. Your feelings are always valid. Nobody ever told me this because my adoptive parents were cruel people and I thank God that I made it to 8 years old alive.

I want to thank Kara for sharing her story. She is living proof that sometimes you have to create you own happy ending. Her faith and belief in something better after tragic beginnings are a testament to the strength of the human spirit.
You can email Kara Bobila at karabobila@yahoo.com