If you let love go, and it comes back, it's yours . . . .

Before you can begin to think about how to get back the love of your life, and saving the relationship between you and your lover, you first have to sort out the problems, and figure out what you can do to repair it.

First, to get back together with your mate, you have to come to know the real you and what you are all about, and think about the feelings and emotions that were present. These emotions are, anger, being upset, depression, and finally, confusion. Also, you need to face the fact that your partner is not there anymore, at least, at the present time.

Next, if you want your partner back, you must sort out exactly what went wrong in your relationship. This is the time to determine the common reasons for the breakup. Try to figure out just what happened, and then, analyze the conversations between you and,  temporarily, your ex lover.

After you have done the first two steps above, you are ready to try to get your ex back. At this time, think about the problems that were present. Don't get back with your ex just yet, and prove the theory, "Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder". By doing this, all of the ill feeling will all but go away. Also, during this brief period, you will learn to control your emotions, develop new ways, think more of yourself, and work on your best qualities that are going to make this relationship stronger when the time is right. This will help you to remember how it was when you first met. Now that you have had the time and patience to deal with all of this, it is time to start thinking about how to get your ex back.

You are ready to meet with the love of your life again. You will need to be at your very bests. Try to look like a model. Of great importance is the fact that you must abstain from sex at this initial meeting. How you conduct yourself, and the impression you make will determine whether or not you are to have a second meeting with your ex.

There are certain things that you must not do after a breakup. Don't be an ego maniac. Don't smother your mate, the patsy, or the rebellious jilted lover. You want to get back the love of your life, not run it away. Will the same thing happen again? Are you getting along better than before? Are there differences that can be resolved? Is the relationship better than before? How can the same thing be prevented from happening again? You have to answer all of these questions.

All of the above is not quite as simple as it seems. To get back the love of your life, this has to be handled with kid gloves. Don't put this off. Get your life back.

If you want him, or her back, go for it.

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