- According to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, preschoolers normally think death is a temporary condition. They have seen cartoon characters who are destroyed in various ways and yet spring back to life. Children in the early elementary age range begin to realize that the deceased will not return, but still think it can't happen to them or anyone close to them.
- Adding to a child's confusion at the time of loss is the changed atmosphere of the family. Parents and other family members are trying to deal with their own feelings of loss and are less available to the child not only emotionally but physically, since they are busy preparing for and attending a funeral.
- Children will naturally feel sadness, as they deal with their loss. Crying and sadness will continue on and off over a long period of time. Younger children especially may cling to the belief that the loved one will return. They will have many questions, which parents should try to answer honestly. While it is normal for a child to wish the deceased will return, long-term denial of the loss and avoidance of grief can be unhealthy. Anger at the loss and a sense of abandonment may be displayed.
- Children should be allowed to express their feelings openly. They will at times want to talk about the deceased person and relive memories. This is part of the healing process and should be encouraged. Children may begin to act younger, become demanding and have bad dreams. If a child becomes withdrawn, has trouble eating and/or sleeping and begins failing in school, they may need professional help with the grief process.
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