- 1). Face the reasons that caused things to be the way they are to diffuse the situation. Talk it out with your sibling or decide to bury the hatchet altogether. Take things slowly without upsetting the other person but nourish your own feelings at the same time. Be open about your emotions, no matter how embarrassing. Discuss the conflict and any indifference that may have occurred because of the situation. Take time to speak but also listen to him or her and think about what you are saying before you say it. Do not say what you feel in the heat of the moment or it may only worsen the situation.
- 2). Know that you will likely have different thoughts and opinions on both sides of the story. Conflict may arise if he or she feels strongly against the opinions of the other sibling. Try to be understanding. Realize that you two are individual people who express your opinions and personality in two different ways. Open yourself up to multiple ways of viewing things from his or her perspective.
- 3). Talk to other family members or friends and get their opinions about what is going on between the two of you. Realize that you do not have to be the one in the wrong to say you are sorry first. Being sorry is for the way you reacted or took the other person's words, not only to admit you were the cause of the conflict. Remember that your sibling will be one of the only people you will likely maintain contact with throughout your life. Realize that it will take time for things to get back to the way they were before things happened. Continue to nourish the relationship until the conflict is resolved and you can once again continue building happy memories with him or her.
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