It can be as simple or as difficult as you decide to make it.
First, be willing to take responsibility for your own safety, and the time it takes to find the right site for you.
If you are interested in a one on one monogamous relationship, then you want to steer clear of sites that promote "adult friends".
Basically, the "adult friends" sites are for sexual encounters only.
So, if you want more than a sexual weekend rendezvous, "adult friends" sites are not for you.
Before you can find love online or anywhere else, you must know exactly what you are looking for.
Make a list of the things the person "Must Have".
Remember, the "Must Haves" are not negotiable.
So be cautious when making the list: Must be gainfully employed and self supporting (the last person you were with was a bum!) Must love young children (you have 3 under the age of 10) Must love cats (you and the children can't live without them) Must be family oriented (you are very close to your family) Must be willing to relocate (you have ties and you are unwilling to relocate for anyone) Then make a list of your options.
Things that you would love to have, but you are willing to live without them: It would be nice if...
He was over 6' tall (you're 5'9" and would love to look up at a guy for a change!) He had an athletic build (just your personal preference) He owned his own home (in your opinion, it shows a sense of responsibility) In order to know how to find love online, you must first know who you are...
what you absolutely Must Have, and what things are negotiable.
Get your lists together...
and start looking!